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Parenting is not for Cowards

by Suzanne - April 1st, 2010.
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My husband and I had a hard time getting pregnant, try years and years. This gave me a lot of time to think about the kind of parent I would be, the kind I thought was the best.
Fast forward a few years and I have a 3 year old boy and an 11month old boy.
I never ever thought it could be this hard.ever.
I would say the good defiantly out weighs the bad, but when you are in the midst of the bad, like neither of them want to go to sleep, and they are screaming at you for no apparent reason, all the books you read go out the window and your instincts take over and you wonder, Did I really sign up for this? I mean I wanted children, boy did I, but I didn’t want a 3 year old, who mouthed off at me and called me names, one who didn’t obey even though I have asked him not to take his brothers toys away 5,678 times TODAY.
But you know what I got along with all the hard stuff. I have a 3 year old who comes up to me at least 5 times a day and on his own says “Mama, I sure do love you” I have a boy who wants to cuddle and kisses me 8,957 times a day. I have a little boy who sometimes shows that he does listen and comprehend what I am saying when spouting off something smart in front of the grandparents (atta boy I’ll pay ya later) I have a boy, a living breathing example of what Christ did for me, took me as his own, adopted me into his family gave me his name and calls me his own. He loves me unconditionally even though I don’t obey him, and disregard his wishes.

My children are the best example of unconditional love I could have. We adopted our two boys, people tell us we did a good thing, they couldn’t be more wrong, we are the ones that are blessed by them, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

7 Responses to Parenting is not for Cowards

  1. Suzanne, wow! Those are the feelings I have but haven’t been able to express. Thanks for sharing! Perfect timing and perfect encouragement. Your boys are blessed to have you!

  2. It’s a fine line we walk between parenting joyfully and just parenting, we can do it though, we just have to be purposeful.

  3. I really liked your thoughts on parenting. Not only because I am your brother, but it showed a nice vulnerable side that people can relate to if they are honest.
    By the way, did you really answer Gretchen at 1:21 am? I don’t think I was up then. Probably more like 3:45 a.m. 😉

  4. Hmm I must have the clocks set wrong, I was not up at that time :) And thank you, I think as parenting goes if we can all be a little vulnerable then we all won’t feel so alone.

  5. Inspiring. I couldn’t agree more. They are wonderful gifts.

  6. Just followed a link from DS. Your blog is great, and this post made me realize I’m not alone. I needed it. Thanks, and I look forward to reading more.

    My mind also works like this (babe, i got an idea)…the hubs always shakes his head when I tell him what I want to do. Doesn’t he know it doesn’t necessarily mean I want to do it right now?!

  7. So true Emily, no everything right now, just thinking outloud.

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